Goodbye Boys, Be Well

US | Nov 23

An example of the types of messages you can leave with WhenILeave.com:

Kade, Kamden,

You are the world to me.  You know that and I hope you will keep that with you when you move forward and touch the lives of many.

Updated: 3/29/2020

Last night, you both and I spent some time reminiscing about some old photos I saved on Facebook with you too.  I loved it.  You wouldn’t believe how much I enjoy more and more the time we get to spend together. 

Even though you hated it (or didn’t enjoy it as much as I did), I really had fun running with you to Aji Sushi.  I hope you’re still running for your own benefit today.  

I left you a recording on the recording device I bought when you both, grandma and I had a wonderful weekend up in Vancouver.

I was so glad that we at least had that great trip together. I know if I was still there, I would have wanted to take you to Oia, Greece.  A former student of mine in Shanghai, by the same name, was given her beautiful name because her Korean mom and Chinese dad loved the city:

Even though you probably don’t remember it, I also had possibly the best weekend or few days in Vancouver when you were young with your mom and I.  We fought a lot, but that weekend, because of you, we had as good of a weekend as we could.  And thanks to you, our many years of staying together was definitely worth it.

If it weren’t for you two, I wouldn’t have tried for 10 years.  I possibly would have given up in year 4 or so — which would have been the time that you came to us initially in this world.

Honestly, I would never post a picture with me in a hairnet for the world to see, but for you both, I would do anything.

I’m so sad I can never see your boys or if you’re lucky, “girls.”  I know I would have tried to be the best grandfather possible — not as good as yours right now, but the best that I could be.  I would even work harder today because she or he would be more precious than anything alive.  I might annoy you because I would try and come over and spend time with them or take them away because if they have at least 1/10th of your genes, I know they will be special.

I love you boys.  You know I can get quite prolix, but I love you and I’m so lucky to have been called your dad.

I’ll be looking up at you or if I’m lucky down at you.  And I’ll try and hold my tongue about anything I know will make you better.  I’m sure you’ll figure it out.

A famous actor by the name of Jack Lemmon who was in the saddest movie I think I’ve watched said:

“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”

진심으로 너를 사랑해, 

p.s. If I'm not able to tell you before I "leave," here are a few places that I've left some more words for the world.  
-my agency’s blog  
-the SSAT Master blog
-my personal blog
-my Medium
-the old Quora profile that has a bunch of writings before I thought it wasn't worth writing on it anymore
-also, there's some "fun" videos of you guys and me in the old Honda here

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